tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8839129284985526376.post9076744579046612389..comments2009-04-21T10:31:01.958-07:00QueerBabyMakinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10494337831780229823noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8839129284985526376.post-8912665566673943082009-04-21T10:31:00.000-07:002009-04-21T10:31:00.000-07:00What an amazing project. I can't wait to see the full range of images. If it's not too late, I'll also send you pics of myself and my significant other.highfemmehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00026589076168934481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8839129284985526376.post-64460342692487255672009-02-12T10:22:00.000-08:002009-02-12T10:22:00.000-08:00Just found my way here via MDC and loved this post. I'm a queer mama of two girls - a princess/barbie loving three year old, and a seven year old who can already articulate that she feels 'kinda like a girl, but kinda like a boy' and who chooses only 'boy' clothing, etc.<BR/><BR/>Strangely enough, it's easier for me to support her in this than it is to go along with the commercialized glitterly girlie world that my littlest is absorbed by. <BR/><BR/>I'll try to take some photos to send along - for now, I'm going to go read more of your blog :)<BR/><BR/>J.Jenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02732364891346697756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8839129284985526376.post-54554490597298933282008-12-17T08:58:00.000-08:002008-12-17T08:58:00.000-08:00I agree with Lawyersara... but don't put ocean in pantsuits. Pantsuits are mean.AndyPantshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15229010622300343851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8839129284985526376.post-49076453838186089122008-12-16T20:43:00.000-08:002008-12-16T20:43:00.000-08:00Yes, yes, please post links! I'm hoping for a response that transcends my own circle of friends!QueerBabyMakinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10494337831780229823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8839129284985526376.post-31184542840621346012008-12-16T16:12:00.000-08:002008-12-16T16:12:00.000-08:00Is it okay if I post a link to this on my blog? :)elliesmadrehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12380205909716624731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8839129284985526376.post-3816856770171169172008-12-08T15:04:00.000-08:002008-12-08T15:04:00.000-08:00I think you should let her be whoever she decides to be. There is no need to dress her up like a doll in order to make her into a "girl." Womyn are fabulous whether they are wearing skirts or pantsuits a la Hillary Clinton.lawyersaranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8839129284985526376.post-60293551347722605522008-12-02T17:47:00.000-08:002008-12-02T17:47:00.000-08:00so glad i'm going home soon. can't wait to dig out all the childhood pics of me in cowboy hats, football gear, and ties.atomic_swervenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8839129284985526376.post-54811758139944955122008-11-29T22:18:00.000-08:002008-11-29T22:18:00.000-08:00what a great project-- i'm looking forward to doing it.Susannahttp://ifindmyselfamother.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8839129284985526376.post-62322559890353804622008-11-25T12:25:00.000-08:002008-11-25T12:25:00.000-08:00bebe does wear a good deal of pink/"girlie" clothes, since we received so many as gifts. but she also often wears non-frilly black or brown or orange or green or white and at those times we also often get the "how old is he?" question. what cracks me up about these interactions is the instant and heartfelt apologies when i refer to her, in turn, as "her" or "she." the assumption, i guess, is that i must be horribly offended to have my daughter referred to as "he" -- and i guess that, sadly, lots of people would be. (you know, the people who put those ridiculous bow-headband thingies on their baby girls.)<BR/><BR/>one interesting thing i learned in my research is that when the whole pink-and-blue gender coding was first developing, sometime during the first half of the twentieth century (blame sleep deprivation for my inability to remember exactly when), all the experts agreed that pink was suitable for little boys and blue for little girls. they had long explanations of why this was, including the emotions each color would arouse in an infant. just another reminder that ALL our ideas about gender -- and what could be more deeply ingrained in our cultural consciousness at this point than pink=feminine and blue=masculine -- are culturally constructed.bebe's mamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01538660912210390957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8839129284985526376.post-14259335177427382262008-11-25T06:02:00.000-08:002008-11-25T06:02:00.000-08:00as the straight (mostly), somewhat single mother of a little girl i found myself entirely obsessed with the idea of gender and what a woman "should be," early on in my pregnancy. while this may be superficial, i had stopped shaving my legs and havent shaved my armpits in a long time. when i thought about shaving again, i had this huge dilemma...do i teach my daughter (who probably wont even remember yet) that women shave? or do i purposely not shave ever again so that she sees a hairy woman? i blogged a little about it on my myspace, i should probably transfer it to my actual blog someday. anyway. i found your blog while browsing and wanted to stop in and say hi, i hope you'll update more often. its nice to find other like-minded mamas. i'll get something together for your project soon, i would love to contribute.Chelseahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10458037556093315629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8839129284985526376.post-16088884828176752432008-11-25T04:31:00.000-08:002008-11-25T04:31:00.000-08:00My boy picked out some very nice princess slippers in pink. The rest of the day his grandmother kept saying how "of course I should not make a big deal out of it" and "it's quite nice I let him decide on his own" and "why should they be for girls" - nice way to not make a big deal out of it.<BR/><BR/>He is now four, and insists on being frilly only at home. Anything that barely hints at pinkness or is not unambiguously male gets him scared of being laughed at. It's such a shame because he used to go into school quite happily dressed up as a "mommy pilot" for carnaval, doll in a pink pram included.<BR/><BR/>I can talk to him until I'm blue in the face about expressing himself as he wants, and choosing what he likes for himself - peer pressure gets the upper hand every time. What they learn at home often doesn't have the influence you want. At least he's still confident enough to run about the house in pink tights and dresses. And Spiderman suits of course.Mwanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8839129284985526376.post-15667017292044154312008-11-24T18:53:00.000-08:002008-11-24T18:53:00.000-08:00Thanks! M, if you want to include a picture of Q, that would be awesome. Reading your blog was part of my inspiration for all of this...QueerBabyMakinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10494337831780229823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8839129284985526376.post-14872481910704270942008-11-24T17:19:00.000-08:002008-11-24T17:19:00.000-08:00People have such weird ideas about gender don't they? My boys wear pink and purple, the oldest has twirled around in fairy skirts.<BR/><BR/>I've been told they are both too pretty to be boys.<BR/><BR/>Looking forward to the results of your project.sacredandscarredhttp://sacredandscarred.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8839129284985526376.post-2125679900113521582008-11-24T14:04:00.000-08:002008-11-24T14:04:00.000-08:00I've got to come up with a submission, but for now, I just wanted to say that I find this to be an amazingly wonderful and fabulous idea. <BR/><BR/>I foresee a collage for Ocean. And perhaps I need to create a similar one for Q. In all truthfulness, probably everyone needs both the "boy" and "girl" collage, eh?<BR/><BR/>Love it!labelsareforjarshttp://labelsareforjars.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.com